Being sex writer, this should not be surprising. However, I’m especially curious about why people do what they do and how they came about doing it. I love the nitty gritty details and the back story. So when the folks at PlayPassions.com wanted to send me a tell-all book like Swingers: Female Confidential, I just HAD to have it.
Some of them are actually helpful; some of them are full of crap information. Either way, most of them concentrate on theory, rules and how to get into it and mostly discuss it from a male or couples’ point of view. Author, Ashley Lister, confesses that after writing his first book on Swingers he received a flood of emails and letters asking why women swing. So he sat down with women from all over the U.K. settling on 30 women’s stories of why they swing and what they get out of it.
That was the only issue I had with this book and it’s not really even an issue. There were some sexual terms as far as acts, body parts and parties that I didn’t get right away. However, a quick search online or even its use in the context of the story enlightened me to the meaning. Plus, I enjoyed learning these new terms and will most likely incorporate them into my own sexual vocabulary.
Ashley Lister shares the interview transcript of 30 women. He provides a quick introduction as far area where person lives, career, marital status, how long she’s been married, if she has any kids and sets the scene where the interview takes place. After that, it’s the woman’s own words sharing why and telling stories of her swinging experiences. Many women share the story of the first time they tried swinging and any afterthoughts or aftermath and then continue to share how things have progressed or not since.
Absolutely! My husband and I are play with other couples and women and I still learned a lot and I think you will too. You’ll discover that women swing for many different reasons. You’ll find that women in the swinging lifestyle come from many different backgrounds, religious or otherwise, are on very different career paths or have no career at all. Some female swingers are very conservative women and others very liberal. Most importantly, women of all ages are involved in swinging at different times of their lives. It’s refreshing, fascinating, arousing and fun.
Ashley doesn’t only share the good, the positive or the outrageous. He’s not trying to sell the reader on swinging, so his information is balanced. Some interviews are fun to read, some are hot and literally made me wet, some are touching and others are kind of funny. Some aren’t swinging anymore for one reason or another. You’ll also learn that some who aren’t swinging miss it and some don’t.
I don’t want to give too many details away. Discovering the information is part of the fun of reading this book. The hype on this book is not crap. Ashley Lister gives us the down and dirty on why women swing, in their own words. He covers a broad category of women as far as age, career, marital status, religious beliefs, etc. He talks to women who have had good and bad experiences and in it a tell-all book like this; it doesn’t feel like Lister has any other agenda except to get the information out there. It’s an easy read. When I finally committed to reading Swingers: Female Confidential, I did it in a few days; once I picked it up, I couldn’t put it down. I felt aroused, touched, sympathetic, amused, broadened and entertained. If you’re involved in swinging, open relationships or are even just curious about either, I highly recommend setting aside some time to read this book. Plus, it’s under $15 (at the time of writing) a very reasonable price.
Author: Ashley Lister
Publisher: Virgin Books
# of Pages: 256
Self Help or Erotica: Self- Help
Easy or Difficult Read: Easy